Lessons of Conflict

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A few weeks ago I was able to participate in a Managing Conflict Course that my work is piloting. It was a 4 hour session which included an amazing speaker with a background as a communications college professor and experience as a professional mediator corporately and for private couples. Items on the agenda included: understanding your attitudes and beliefs about conflict, conflict is a natural part of team growth, examining your individual conflict style, knowing our "Hot Buttons" or triggers, levels of conflict: known when to engage, and lastly developing skills to managing conflict.

Since I think we can agree that conflict is an inventible natural part of life, let's move on to what conflict means when you find it present in your life at work and at home.

Lessons of Conflict:
  1. Something we are doing is no longer useful.
  2. It's time to refocus or redirect.
  3. We've lost self-clarity.
  4. We have an unmet need.
  5. We need to reclaim something we have sacrificed.
The next posts will be examining these lessons a little more in-depth but today I want you to consider a conflict you have recently been in or are currently in and ask yourself if any of these lessons ring a bell for you.

It's easy to make conflict about everybody else but that's not useful and it's not productive. If you don't already do this - today I want you to function with the primary mentality that you are responsible for the wellness/happiness/balance of your life. The happiness of (insert your name here) is not responsibility of anyone but (insert your name here). Just think about it. More to come. xo

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